Single Me

As I have been recently rendered single I must now make a decision on the kind of single person I shall be. As I understand it there are several different types of singleness which kind of determines the type you become. There are those that have never really been in a long term relationship (LTR) and the majority of this group are young persons who haven’t really ‘had a stab’ at anything more than sex and dates. This is understandable for young folk as they are making other life decisions such as career or education. They also spend a huge amount of time satisfying themselves in whichever way they can – and rightly so! In short, youngsters are discovering their own identity and don’t normally have the focus for another individual or relationship. Another singles category is the group of people that no person (and some animals) would entertain as a partner. This can be for many reasons but in the main it will be because they are ridiculously ugly either in appearance or their personality. It could also be due to physical or mental health issues or even just poor personal hygiene. The broken heart group did find the love of their life but in the end it wasn’t reciprocated leaving them unable to move on. Conversely, there are the romantics who have not found ‘the one’ yet and are happy in the knowledge that Mr or Mrs Right will come along and until that time they will remain happy and single. The selfish adult likes to have fun and think only of themselves, they have no intention of entering into a LTR. I use the word ‘selfish’ as descriptive and not as any kind of judgement as they do not really hurt anyone and they will often make their intentions clear to all. Then there are those that are unable to commit to a LTR, usually due to an emotional flaw (reactive attachment disorder). And finally, there are those who have recognised they are in the wrong relationship and have separated amicably or otherwise – this is the group that I am currently situated in.

So how should I be?

Generally speaking, members of my group can become several different types of single. They can mope and moan about the previous relationship and how they don’t want to be single or feel that they always will be single, becoming withdrawn and self pitying. I think I have moaned enough already and I don’t feel withdrawn so I guess I will not be this kind of single. They can rush into a rebound relationship or just another relationship in some kind of serial monogamy fashion. I really can’t be arsed with anyone else right now and the thought of learning another partners sleep and toilet habits is off putting at the moment. Alternatively, the single can freefall into a social life fuelled by drink, drugs and meaningless sex. This is an attractive option but I have two jobs and studies to continue so maybe I’ll consider this option on a part time basis. As per the advice from my family and friends the single can choose to have ‘me time’, that is to not even attempt a reconciliation or seek another relationship in the foreseeable future and take time to focus on personal and professional goals. This is the option for me right now and listing the options here has helped me to decide. I will however be borrowing heavily from the freefall option with regular (but not full time) drinking, drugs and meaningless sex. In fact I am going to have such a fucking laugh and live selfishly and hedonistically albeit in a sensible manner.

I am really looking forward to this….

BRING-IT-ON!!!